People Pleaser Test: Am I a People-Pleaser?

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About this check

People-pleasing usually starts as a way to stay safe and connected — and then quietly costs you your own needs. This check-in helps you notice how often you put others first at your own expense.

This short reflection is a starting point, not a diagnosis. These questions are not a validated screening test like the PHQ-9 or GAD-7. Answer honestly about the last two weeks; there are no right answers.

How often is this true for you?

I say yes when I really want to say no. *

I feel responsible for how other people feel. *

I apologise even when I haven't done anything wrong. *

I avoid conflict, even when something matters to me. *

I feel guilty when I put my own needs first. *

I shape myself around what others want from me. *

I fear that setting a boundary will make people leave. *

I struggle to ask for help or to receive it. *

I replay interactions, worrying I upset someone. *

I don't always know what I want, because I focus on others. *